Your first step is to meet a woman and ask her out on a date.

Next step is to become friends and get to the point that you both decide to become intimate with each other.

Next step is to become intimate.

Notice that nowhere in there is any mention of anything like "research" or "kinks" or "how to make sure she cums" those all come later and if you get ahead of yourself it's just a distraction; because you haven't completed the prerequisites and it won't make sense.

So go for step 1 first, and go from there.

I think I speak for all men who are not virgins when I say that it is nearly impossible to bring a woman to orgasm on your first time having sex. That just takes a LOT of practice, and some men never achieve this goal their entire life.

So just don't worry so much and go through the steps.