So...yes. I've had to put her in the hospital.....because she'd rather kill herself than seek help, which would be pretty shitty. I prefer she have a healthy lifestyle....because I'd like to live a long life with her.
Not sure what the relevance of the next bold is...did you just bold my I? Lol.
I have to stay up extra late to talk to her, which is messing up my sleep habits.....because if I'm not staying up, we just don't talk, and then we're both in worse off positions than we were at the top.
(but you want her to interrupt her sleeping habits for you when you were on breaks form your previous job--as if your sleeping habits are more important that hers) Interrupting her sleeping habits is a mighty assumption, because, as I already said, if left to her own habits she'll sleep 12~14 hours a day, which is extremely unhealthy, as multiple doctors and therapists have advised her, as I've already said. I'm not asking her to interrupt her sleep habits, I'm asking her to have better sleep habits, which if she did, she'd align with the breaks I had. If she worked until 5AM I wouldn't ask her to wake up 3 hours later to chill with me, that's ridiculous. I'm asking her to wake up after 10 hours of sleep (probably still excessive) to spend the only hour with me she'll probably get that day.
This is a lot of presumption about both her intent and her state of mind. Its almost like you want her to be upset.
That's a bit of a stretch, I know my wife pretty well. It's not so much a presumption as a fact that she's terrible at masking this stuff with anyone, not just me.
Then there is your 'concern' for her health. you are worried that she isn't eating enough, but you honestly seem more worried that not end up a fat slob like her mother
Probably the wrong choice of words, but the intent of that was more to convey that her mother is a bedridden woman that sits in her room all day miserable, feeding herself to the point where its excessive, not taking care of herself mentally or physically. Which, if its selfish of me to not want that then I'll take that label 24/7.
That being said, while you interpreted me as me patting myself on my back. All I've really said of myself is that I do my best to be understanding and I'm pretty mature for my age, and give pretty good advice based on my experiences in life. If you want to take that as me saying I'm god's gift to earth, then so be it. But I take it more as a guy that has gifts and flaws, just as any other human, and was focusing on the pertinent information.
The entire point of this thread was to focus on the relevant information of my wife's issues adding stress to our relationship, which has now gotten additional stress from the distance. So no, I didn't focus on a lot of external details that I elected to leave out. My biggest concerns, in the context of this thread, are her sleeping habits and her physical health because that's what this thread is about....advice that has been laid out in front of her...that she's ignoring because she's stubborn and likes to think she knows better...and the stress its putting on our relationship.
I apologize if it came off as me asking about anything else, or if I was supposed to go into greater detail about our relationship, or if this response comes off as a little edgy. But I think I can be reasonably frustrated that you're basically insulting me with half the information instead of answering within the context of the question.
But, reading between the lines, your suggestion more or less is to back out and let her work at her own pace.
Which, if that's the case, what am I supposed to do in terms of how this is impacting our relationship? Just suck up feeling rejected and hope we make it through it? Cause that's exactly what I'm worried about, hence the whole point of asking.
Thanks for the response, regardless.