Thank you, it’s really good advice. I have access to a counsellor but I feel strangely tranquil. I think having told the children means it’s not hidden in parental conversations behind closed doors - that secrecy used to feel like the most enormous burden, so I feel grateful to myself for finally getting to the point where I have laid that burden down. I was expecting tears and rollercoaster emotions, but truly, it’s just enormous relief. My legal advisor said this process could take up to two years, so I’m not panicking and just taking it a step at a time. My husband is stubborn, sulks and often behaves like a whipped dog if he doesn’t get his way and it’s hard for me to see him do this in front of our children. But they’re all adults now and I won’t step into the middle of their relationship with their father (any more). I’m grateful that you took the time to reach out and be supportive, thank you for your kind words.