i am that guy.....My conservative wife told me NO, told me no again...I asked maybe a 3some, we been married for yrs and we were barely having sex....kids and good life but celibate basically and my porn was intimate but my wife was like asking a hooker to jack me off...let alone have sex, always a thing......wellI made it my mission to change this and I did...took me almost 18 months, yr and half but I did it and I researched the hell out of it, learned how to do it and it even made me a better husband....but I did it and y yrs shy 2 months in the marriage I converted her finally and then she said those magic words...I want an open marriage.......this wife who wasnt interested in sex I saw her masturbating 5-8 times a day for other men....she told me she wanted to know how everyman she passed was lie in bed, not sure what that meant but sure........That is my story!