Hey hot mom :) hubby writing here, my love doesn't like to write as much as I do, but she read the message before posting and gives her seal of approval.
As you know, she also allows me to play. Before I met her, I had a lot of sexual experiences, much more than her. When we started talking about hotwifing, I never imagine doing anything on my end, I was perfectly content to see her play and this is definitely for us both, and not just her. I never thought she would propose that I see other girls. She is a bit jealous sometimes, and I didn't want to do anything that might upset her in any way and possibly put her off our games.
When she asked me if I wanted to play too, at first I said no, then we talked about it. Then we decided to try it. So far I had 4 dates, each very different. In one case I met the girl and we had hand games in my car. During my date, my wife was busy chatting with a common friend on our chat group (there was something like 150 unread messages when I was done LOL). She didn't feel jealous this time, just excited (possibly more excited than me, to be honest). I didn't feel very attracted to the girl and not sure I would have met her "on my own" if you know what I mean.
The second date was with my friend in London. That one was less easy for my wife. A few things were a bit much: First the fact that this girl is a good friend of mine, even though she is very young (21 at the time). We chat quite a lot, not in a romantic manner but we are good friends. Another things that was too much is that we spent the night together (that was planned and approved, but after the fact we both felt that it was a bit too much and decided to avoid sleepovers next time). Also, I had booked dinner in a nice restaurant and my wife felt that it was a romantic date… even though I am not romantically attracted to my friend, at all! Nonetheless I understand what she meant, and I agreed to tone it down next time. That said, even though we had discussions and even small arguments about this date, we both feel that it makes us stronger. My wife and I talk a LOT every day about everything, and when we cannot talk we chat. We both feel that these discussions help us understand our relationship better. There is also a feeling of "wow we can do that, means that really nothing can break us u
The third date was a bit different, as I met a girl online during a business trip, and then decided to meet with her. Again, she was young and not very experienced. It was her first time meeting with a stranger. She was both bold and shy, which was an interesting combination. When we met and I asked her if she wanted lunch, she said she would rather go in my room o_O. There she was very nervous and shy and it took a bit to make her feel comfortable. She kept asking "what will we do next". We had agreed to just see how it went and I ended up giving her two orgasms with my tongue. I didn't really feel like getting more with her, and I loved the feeling of horniness that stayed with me until I came back home and my wife and I were finally able to fuck our brains out. During the same business trip, my wife also had a date and kind of messed up (got very drunk, spent the night with the guy even though we had agreed not to…). So when we were able to be together again, it was special, and quite arousing. Again, the talking definitely helped a LOT and we now see this experience as a big plus for us as it, again, made us stronger and more comfortable with our mutual feelings. During that date, my wife didn't feel jealous
Fourth date is the one I just had recently and that you read. Same London girl, and again some feelings of jealousy occurred. But here again, we talked and talked about it, and now that we are OK, we both feel that it is a good thing for us.
Be aware of a few things though:
- It is difficult to find girls who understand this lifestyle. OK finding a good guy is not easy (you are VERY lucky to have such a good relationship with your FWB) but finding girls is even harder I think. The whole flirting thing is a pain for me. That's why I like my FWB in London, and the repeat experience is less of a stress for me. That said the date with that girl during my business trip was also a big turn on because it felt so naughty :) Your hubby (and you) should be prepared to a lot of judgement from women. Open relationships are not well accepted by women, who get very suspicious. I have been insulted on websites for being married and wanting to play. With guys it is easier to explain, and even if they disagree they judge less.
- Even when a girl knows about the open relationship, it is quite hard to get them to take pictures. I guess it is shyness (and probably the fact that all my dates were rather young is relevant here). That is a problem that I am not sure how to solve, and I don't want to force them into something they are not comfortable with.
- Talk talk talk and talk more. Be prepared to accept potential bad feelings and to use them as a step forward in your relationship.
All in all, I would rather recommend trying it out. You seem very open with your hubby, and if you can overcome the feeling of jealousy, it can really be an amazing experience. In the worst case, you can stop it.
My advice however: Dissociate this completely from your own hotwifing. Don't consider letting him play to "reward" him from letting you play. That would be wrong. If you decide to "let him play", do that as an experiment for you two, go into that as a common experience, and enjoy the ride. But if you feel bad about it, don't link that to your own hotwifing, and decide to stop everything. Just see how you feel and take it easy. Maybe he can start by flirting online and showing you the messages, or even going on skype etc. That can be a lot of fun too :)
Enjoy and let us know how it goes. Happy to PM with you if you have questions!