I've never been married before so I guess I have nothing to compare it to, but I just don't feel like a real wife.

BM dragged him into some ridiculous argument the day after our wedding, which he participated in. I don't think a real wife would have had to deal with her new husband squabbling with an ex over nothing that was important.

I don't think a real wife would have to deal with an ex coming into her house when she's not there. I don't think a real wife would have to have the ex talked about by family members in her presence.

Would a real wife have to deal with an ex forcing her husband to attend mediations (which are pointless because she just goes back on everything she agreed on when it comes time to sign anything).

I do not understand why the BM cannot respect my marriage and my home. She is the one who wanted a divorce. I didn't even meet him until after it was finalized and he had moved out. I hate her, but have not bad mouthed her in anyway and I have not done anything to her or her children that she could find any fault with.

Its like she thought she'd get divorced, bang a bunch of dudes, party with her friends and that my husband would remain in some kind of animated suspension to fund her lifestyle, watch her kids while she's out partying, help her around her house, answer her calls when she was bored and that he'd never move on.