Hey, thank you for the detailed response. I know what he did is not excusable. Usually it would be an immediate deal breaker for me too and certainly not someone that I would be interested in had it been prior knowledge. Since what happened with the guy before I have been working really hard at focusing on and better valuing myself. So I am at a loss trying to explain why I didn’t cut it off when I initially found out other than blind love.

At this point in time it has been over a year since it took place and so much good has happened since. I really do love my boyfriend and I genuinely feel like he is trying to do the right thing, just doesn’t handle things in the right way (at all). I do agree with the counselling so I think that’s something I might have to push further to ensure this does work out. Despite the magnitude of the incident (which I’ve somewhat been in denial of) the good outweighs the bad by miles. I might sound like an idiot but I am not ready to end the relationship over this