Without starting an argument, a fetish is a sexual response that is not associated with the sex act / reproduction / erogenous zones that causes no physical, emotional or psychological damage to any involved party, whilst a perversion is much the same, but does / would cause damage.



Paedophilia is not a fetish, it's a pathopsychological state, or a perversion if acted upon in any way or form.

This all sounds like semantics to me. However I understand it's important to distinguish it from things that would not hurt people if carried out, it sounds just the same to me from the eyepoint of the person having the fetish/pathopsychological state/perversion. If you want to compare it to homosexuality: she stated that they had a great sexlife up until now, from which I concluded he'd still be able to enjoy just regular sex.

Watching porn is not a viable treatment / management plan for this illness. Therapy, social support (where it exists), emotional & stress management are. One of the problems is the illness is not well understood, and there is virtually no public support networks available in the management of this disease.

Thank you for pointing this out. I absolutely agree and did not want to bring this on as a treatment, however I see how it might have sounded like that. I wanted to express my vision on what I personally thought was acceptable or not in his possible porn habits. Ongoing therapy is definitively key in this situation.

Until technology can safely manage this condition, we as a society must be quite clear that we do not accept child abuse- that it is unforgivable. OP's partner (and OP herself) is quite right to be fearful and confused, it's a potentially very dangerous affliction that could destroy both their lives, and a burden to carry.

I would like to assume OP and her SO are pretty regular ethical humans and are very well aware of this.