No aftercare after hookups?

It really just depends on the comfort level of both people.

My fwb gives me aftercare every time because that's just the kind of people we are. We also have a heavy D/S dynamic so he knows aftercare is important to me.

I’m just starting to feel insecure and used, but I mean that’s the point of hooking up right?

I mean, not really. Again, depends on both people's comfort level. I don't fuck people who make me feel insecure. One guy made me feel insecure, and I never went back. The guys who I keep hooking up with are the ones who make me feel sexy as hell.

If he's a long time friend, there's no harm in stating your boundaries and needs during/after sex. What's the worst that can happen? He says no. And you just tell him, "well then I'm not interested in this anymore. Bye."

Don't hesitate to walk away from people who can't give you what you need.

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