but you can be upset about your relationship with your parents and the fact they prioritized their own opinions on what you actually "should" want over what you explicitly tell them. i grew up with a narcissist parent who literally ALWAYS would get me presents that she knew she would like more than me just to see my fake grateful reaction and record it to post online and then wait for me to stop using the thing so that she could have it and use it as hers. that way she got "good parent points" for getting me something but actually didn't have to get me something. was i supposed to be grateful for that because she got me anything at all? eventually she got so bad she just gave me a handful of tiny bottles of shampoo she took from hotel bathrooms over a few months. should i be grateful i got anything at all then? and if not, where do you draw the line? because to me it's pretty clear if you get someone something based more on the opinions YOU have for what they should want than what they TELL YOU they want, then you are an inconsiderate asshole. if he didn't want to buy her airpods because he doesn't support apple, he should have told her and discussed it with her like an adult instead of just imposing his opinions unilaterally and disappointing his daughter which could only result in two outcomes, the daughter being hurt or the father returning them and being hurt.