Dating with trust issues: fear of being strung along

Thank you for taking the time to read and help me sort this out. She has her own reasons for kissing at least and I do respect that, we just hold different views on how special or intimate that action is.

Honestly as much as I really enjoy my time with her in person, apart she makes little or no effort to stay in contact between dates and it often leaves me feeling like she doesn't care or isn't interested despite saying that I was the one that stood out to her and she wants to build a relationship with me and only me. It's gotten so bad that I can barely even get a date planned with her. Every time I ask if she'd like to go on one she enthusiastically says she would love to, but her lack of communication makes it hard to even get one planned lately. Oftentimes I won't even get text replies for 24+ hours, or I might get one and then radio silence.

All of that combined with the app activity just makes me feel like she's talking to somebody else that she finds far more interesting and is either keeping me on the back burner or isnt ending things either because she isn't sure she wants to or because she wants to spare my feelings or something. I just don't understand why she would keep going on dates and even paying for some of them saying she wants to treat me to something nice because I deserve it. Why would she do that when she has a busy schedule already if she wasn't at least somewhat interested? I mean she spends almost a whole day with me.

Idk but either way I'm feeling pretty tired of thinking about the whole things and I'm almost starting to lose interest myself. I really enjoy her company and I would love to start a relationship, but I don't get the impression that she feels quite as interested in me as I am her and that is enough for me to not take that next step.

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