I really don't accept that Shay is a bad person. It's true that you can never really know who a person is just from watching a bunch of vlogs. I still haven't accepted that Shay has actually cheated. Yes. What he did was a betrayal of sorts and truly an awful thing to do to his wife and family. But did he book a hotel room and sleep with this woman? She would have said so but it didn't happen. You could possibly call it the next worst thing on the list of bad things to do. Top one being actually sleeping with another woman. Who knows what his intentions were. But in this case he didn't.

I think Shay has a big heart. He tries to be a good person. Anyone who has watched these vlogs from the beginning as I have should be able to see this. But he has spoken candidly about his mental health issues on a few occasions and that gives you a clue about his state of mind when he made these mistakes. This past year he has put on a lot of weight again and that is another sign that things were not well with him. I sympathise with him because I have had some of the most awful bouts of depression in my life as well. When you are down you can make really shitty and self destructive decisions. You know deep down you are making a huge mistake but that is just the way your brain is working when you are down. The chemicals your brain just aren't balanced and they influence your life often negative ways. Shay is a human being first of all. You have got to accept that people and relationships cannot be perfect all the time. Having a fulfilling life and achieving happiness comes with effort and if you love someone and see something inside of them that is worth fighting for then you knuckle down and damn well fight for it. That seems to be the decision that Collette has made and she knows him better than anyone on this planet. I truly with all of the Butler family well.