Thank you, I've thinking on this a lot. No matter if it was or not manipulation, I do want to do anything to understand his social anxiety/aromantic/asocial being , however, the only commentary from me talking about a dream, a desire of a small wedding with us saying our vows as poems... made him anxious and he questioned me a lot about social validation. It wasn't a question, he was sharing his vision, I didn't reply with any other than my idea for me, personally, no questioning him neither asking him to do it.
If I can be emphatic and open to dialoge, why he can't understand my romantic needs? or at least, help me to have peace with "no worries, if that makes you happy, we'll see"
I don't want to be giving everything and leading everything towards him, for him to just be so sad about my dreams