You edit most of your text, young boy. I don’t have any problem with that as long as you respect the way I express a moment of my life I wanted to share, looking for some advice/examples of people who may think similar and lived through something similar. (It was fascinating to read the perspectives of a few 8s). You seem more of a 1 or a 5, even a 6 judging so easily for just a couple of information and using it as a pure standard. I don’t judge if you’re a 6 or a 3 according to your point. What I see is that you seem to want all 4s to behave like actual 4s. It is not about our actions or the way we write, it is about the core and the trap of our egos. The enneagram gives us a couple of extra tools so we may know ourselves better and evolve the best way we can. I deeply think using the enneagram to judge and to point out people is pure waste and a miss-use. Not the main point of it. Not all 4s will think the same as you and obviously they wont act the same as you. If I don’t answer is not to make you assume something, do you think it is fair to share this to someone who is not in a position of collaboration, but just make assumptions? I won’t ever change your idea of (let’s unmask 4s in the forum) since you live I don’t know where and my life and context are basically so different than what you may assume. About my ex, I thought about reporting it to the police, I certainly don’t have the exact information of what to report and I’d have to make an exhaustive research about it. He lives in a quite dangerous island, I could go there and do the whole thing, but I’m also aware of myself, being me in an unhealthy stage of my life, being obsessed, ashamed and revengeful about a person and a moment of my life that is not here anymore. I will NEVER defend corrupt and he showed me that belief at the beginning of dating him, he obviously showed me just one part and the worst it got I ran away... if you want to report it to the police, you go and do it!