INFJs are romantics in theory but realists in practice.
Yeah, that's true. though less in theory and more in "that part of myself that ...." okay fine maybe in theory covers it.
They want to wade slowly and cautiously into relationships, ensuring they are investing in someone whom they can trust long-term. This type has their walls up high but once they let them down, their partner gets the all of them – and they expect the same in return.
Very accurate for me. I just don't know where the INFJ part leaves off and my enneagram 6 kicks in in this regard.
INFPs aren’t always the quickest to act on their emotions but they are certainly the quickest to feel them. This type experiences a rich, vivid inner world that includes a deep sense of passion for whomever strikes their fancy. They dream of grand, romantic gestures and passionate declarations of love – even when they know those gestures are unlikely to become a reality. To an INFP, thinking about a new romantic interest is often more fun than actually interacting with them.
Holy shit this really illuminates some aspects of my initial experiences with an INFP who I got romantically involved with. That last line just blows my mind, actually - the narrative is more important or interesting that the person. it explains how there was this high intensity of interest, but things got so weird when I, as an actual (way less fascinating than the ideal) person, didn't fit the narrative. And that whole "grand romantic gesture" thing is amazingly accurate to my experience.
Patience is a virtue for ISTJs and this applies to forming relationships as much as it applies to anything else. This type wins love interests over with their consistent and trustworthy nature ... This level headed type wants to make sure they’re investing in someone who shares their core values – which means they have to get to know the person first.
So far this is accurate (though not yet in the love stage). The thing is, I almost don't notice some of this explicitly because I'm so busy doing my own INFJ version of whatever meshes with this from the other side.