I think that's true. And as more people come out and tell their stories then we connect the dots and see why things happened.

In my family's case, my brother was a pretty happy kid before the abuse took place, but turned to a seriously dysfunctional and distressing lifestyle afterwards, complete with drugs and violence against others and himself. He's now in prison for murder. No, I'm not kidding.

I'm not saying 'he got abused so it's the priest's fault that my brother murdered someone.' But being abused and holding in that self-hatred... set him on a bad path and no matter how hard my famiky tried we couldn't get him off of it.

I wasn't abused like he was. But I reaped some of the consequences of it--my parents spending so much time addressing my brothers needs that mine were often ignored.