Thread Update: Truth Comes Later I am just in this non relationship where he gets all the benefits. I am staying cuz it is so much better to have someone who wants to spend all their time with me and is Affectionate with me then when I was alone all the time. But, I can see the love is fake. He needs to improve his station in life and that is his motivation for being here. It makes me feel so jaded about love. But, in a way I understand. That's why women had dowries back in olden times. Because the world is a barter system. Love is real, but not no soul mate type love-the thing us 80zBabies was raised up searching for. (Listen to the majority of 80z songs and u can see what I mean...) The thing about dating so far in my 40s is its the same as in my 30s. I put everything in and all they put in is the physical touch and time. And I'm a pretty girl with a younger look and nice body and this is what I'm getting... it's just so lame. Rant over.