You know, someone could have written this about myself. Even down to the details about you buying kink related items recently and her loving it. And honestly I don’t even have any useful advice.. but I relate to her. I can’t even explain why, but my sex drive fluctuates pretty hard. My husband also snores and if I’m working he’ll sleep in another room and I’ve wondered if that’s had any impact on our sex life. I’ve noticed if he gives me a lot of attention and makes me feel special I’ll usually be more likely to want sex, but not always. Also I guess it’s pretty hard to be attentive to someone from another room! So I can’t blame him there. We’ve even been on romantic holidays together where I’ve packed nice lingerie with the intention of making it a ‘dirty weekend’ and then when the time comes I’m just not feeling it! Sometimes we’ve gone months without it and if it wasn’t for the fact that I feel guilty about it I’m not sure I’d have noticed. I like affection and I love feeling close to him but I can go hot and cold, I don’t mean to! I’ve often said to him I must have some kind of hormone imbalance? Perhaps your girlfriend is similar to me. When we have sex.. it’s great! Truly the best sexual partner I’ve ever had, he’s so attentive and passionate.. there’s really nothing he could do more. I don’t think you should feel like you’re doing anything wrong if you genuinely know you make a lot of effort. I’ve always been aware that it must bother my husband and to be honest it’s only recently I’ve really made much more of an effort to not turn him down as often. I don’t know why, maybe because I’ve been spending time on here but I’ve just realised how selfish I’ve been to not try harder to make the man I love happier.. Plus I think the deadbedrooms content on here might have given me a bit of a kick up the arse to do something before it’s too late.