I need some advice about communicating with a Japanese person

Thank you for being the only one to give me an honest response. I know people in this sub have heard countless stories about greasy weeaboos whose only mission in life is to find a waifu and travel off to the motherland and live happily ever after. I don't blame people for thinking that way, but it seems like people here are dead set on believing that's the case here despite me making it abundantly clear that's not what I want to do. I can't really waste all of my time trying to convince people who already have their mind made up. I've said that I don't have any intentions of asking this girl out or trying to have any relationship with her beyond a regular acquaintance, but if people want to believe that's not the case, there's really not much I can do.

The reason I posted this thread was because I was hoping people who were more familiar with Japanese people than I could perhaps tell me what is normal for them and what isn't with regard to how they communicate with people. What's normal chit-chat for me could be too forward for her. Perhaps she just feels too nervous to speak English. I don't know, and that's what I was hoping someone here could shed some light on. Instead, I got a bunch of snark and projection from people who think everyone has the same motives as them, but it's reddit, so it's to be expected. She's likely only been here for a couple of years and probably isn't too keen on talking to people she doesn't already know. That would the case regardless of who it is. I understand that much. If she doesn't want to talk to me, then that's fine. It wouldn't make sense since she's often the one to talk to me, but it won't bother me all that much.

And that's really the thing. She's the one that asks me for help. I assume that if she's capable of going to school here that she has a decent enough understanding of English to do the work on her own. If she doesn't, then I'm more than happy to help her, but I don't help her out unless she asks me or I see her constantly looking at my screen to see what I'm writing.

Our conversations have been extremely basic and most of it has been about schoolwork. I only started texting her after I talked to her a little bit, but since the class only meets once a week, I don't exactly have that much time to actually talk to her face-to-face. I figured texting would be a better way to talk outside of class. At least here, it's not really a big deal to talk to someone via text message. I thought that since we had started a conversation, it'd be natural to continue it through text messages. I've only sent her two texts that had to do with stuff besides school (both just generic questions about herself and her other classes and stuff we talked about during the day,) and since she ignored both of them, it got me thinking that perhaps I was just too forward with her and I wrongly assumed she'd be comfortable texting. I'd understand taking a hint if I had insisted we meet up and she kept saying no or saying she was busy. Trying to get someone to "take a hint" when you're asking questions they should have no reservations answering is rude and to see people here denying that is baffling.

Nothing I've said in text messages or in face-to-face conversations could reasonably give her the impression that I'm trying to hit on her. It has all been boring shit about how long the classwork is and school life and a little bit about her. I'm not offended she didn't answer. Maybe I'll talk to her about it next time I see her. I don't think it's worth it to put her on blast just for ignoring my texts, though.

Anyway, thank you very much for the response.

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