"I'm aware that testosterone makes guys more aggressive or whatever, but that's not what I mean. the way we handle masculinity as a culture is really unhealthy. we view masculinity and masculine traits as inherently superior to femininity and feminine traits, so as a result, a lot of the self-worth of men is tied up in being as stereotypically masculine as possible."
What do you mean we see masculinity as inherently superior to femininity? Men are just as emotional as women but in a different fashions. Being prone to want to fight people or getting angry very easily is called being sensitive. Stigma around virginity? What stigma? Females are less likely to become pregnant and there are more virgins in this generation than ever before for both men and women.
submissive sex? Homophobia? Homophobia is an illogical word. There is no medial diagnosis for something like this. If it doesn't impact your day to day life in a really fucked up way, it's not a mental illness.
What do you mean by submissive sex? Do you mean when a girl rides a guys dick? You mean homo sex? Most people aren't homos, lol.
"so then when a lot of guys see traps or other feminine AMAB people, they lapse into these ridiculous heated arguments about how it affects their sexuality. you have the camp of guys who are openly attracted to them and freak the fuck out trying to justify it to themselves and everyone else, and the camp of guys who see that as an opportunity to make themselves feel more masculine by trying to put them down. it's a stupid conflict that doesn't really accomplish anything."
Im sure those people are joking... The porn and fetishes you like do affect your sexuality but they're a small part of it. If you like traps you aren't 100% straight but that doesn't mean you're gay. Let's just say 0.1% represents your attraction to traps but also your unwillingness to fuck an actual dude. If you were willing to fuck a real trap and you were attracted to an actual real life trap then yes I wouldn't call you straight at that point, Bi if anything...
If you like traps you aren't 100% straight but doesn't mean you want to fuck an actual male.I'd still call that person straight because well, they don't want to fuck actual dude. Not that hard