Girl

You should write a full blown essay about this for publishing, or just sharing if you do any kind of academic or writing pursuits.

I grew up in a wealthy family and absolutely everything you said is true, and it’s like I wrote this.

From inside my family, they understand and know I have disabilities that are not my fault, but people on the outside view me as a lazy freeloading slob, just ‘riding on the accomplishments’ of my family. When the reality is I would be homeless, an unwilling sex worker, or dead if my family didn’t have my back.

Coming from where I do, my dad has two business partners who also have autistic children, but they are more affected, non-speaking, level 3 much higher needs. Someone like me that isn’t obviously disabled is just seen as the family fuck up, and we don’t feel the need to explain to anyone what’s really going on but trust me it still sucks to be looked at like that and feel like maybe I really am a burden and a curse to my family,

But like the two higher care autistic friends I know, from my dads business partners, who nobody sees as lazy because they can see they have challenges, I still overhear comments like about how people feel ‘so bad’ for their parents, because they won’t have ‘an heir’ or full set of children to ‘carry on the legacy’, like fucking horrible bullshit garbage like that gets said about them and it makes me so angry.

It’s not necessarily easier coming from a caring and well off family as an autistic human; at the same time I can’t imagine having a family that won’t, or just simply isn’t able to support you, there’s so many hard issues and topics here.