I actually felt like she has OCD. She is obsessing over the behavior to feel in control. Luckily, she didnt appear to be bones under her clothing (Yet). She was wearing big clothes and we couldnt see her face but still I think it’s OCD which is bad enough. We couldnt see her sister’s face but it was evident she was thinner. Both of my children have/had OCD. My son died four years ago and I know my daughter will always have it. Obsessing over rituals and believing if you don’t do something the correct way or in the right order, you could die or your parent could die. In a way, it’s like a God complex because the reality is, that many of us don’t have control over what happens to us. I honestly feel like my son was OCD at birth. He was in second grade before I had a name for it. They both also had tourette’s. I didnt see things as a whole until much later, too late possibly. There wasnt much online about Tourette’s as a noise or body movement when I was raising my two babies. I feel like the fear and uncertainty that I tried to keep hidden from them, instead, actually manifested in them as these issues. As a parent, when you don’t have an answer and you’ll do anything to find one, you listen to what doctors say and supposed experts. Both my kids were put on ADHD medicine when neither of them ever acted hyper and they were both incredibly smart and talented. That medication changed them. I took my daughter off adderall when she suddenly didnt want to be touched affectionately. They were both put on Zoloft at a young age too. I don’t know if that affected them long term. I am so glad more answers are available but still it’s a helpless feeling when you cant help your child.

My grown daughter stopped talking to me after my son died. Only as I am typing this now, I am wondering if maybe she realized that she only did those things when I was around? I really don’t know because she ghosted me completely three years and seven months ago. I dont get to see my grandkids and she wont give an explanation. I missed her college graduation and her wedding and all the details about her children. She may think the explanation would hurt me but ghosting me has hurt me more than anything that I could imagine. Having a dead child and the only person who knew him completely like I do, won’t discuss him at all is a whole new level of pain.

They need to ignore the behavior for now. It’s hard to do but it can be done. I think mcgraw’s advice about getting her busy volunteering at animal shelter is a good idea. They shouldnt have to quit their jobs. That is easy for mcgraw to say when he isnt in that position. I wouldnt get her a dog (for a while) or a phone until she stopped the behavior. If we can get our kids realizing that being smart and caring means more than being thin, it would be a start. I can’t imagine raising a girl now whereas they have to compete with social media and photo filters and fake people living fake lives. As a society, we need to show that we care more for intelligence than body weight. Everyone’s concerns with getting likes and subscribers is depressing.

Sorry for my rant, i feel like I had an AHA moment