I’m patting you on the back, giving you a million points and saying I’m so sorry. I’m the TBI survivor in my family, and if I were causing my loved ones that much stress I’d feel horrible. I agree with the other comment about returning him to the nursing home. You & your parents not living a good life doesn’t help him.

He may have moments of recognition or memory but he sounds as if he is mostly unaware. He’d want you to go on living a full life. Think of him when he was himself, would he want this to be his life? Your life!?!?!?

I’m not callous, but I’ve got to be honest. I’ve seen what my struggles have done to my family. I wish it weren’t so. I would give anything to make their lives easier without the worry of my health. Please take it from someone on the other side of your situation, he’d want you to be happy, and he’d thank you eternally for trying so hard and loving him so much!