I’m so sorry you’re going through this and feeling so de-regulated right now. What I can assure you is what you are currently feeling is okay and acceptable.

We are social beings, relationships are extremely important if not vital to our survival. It’s okay that you consider this important, and really, who is anyone to tell you it isn’t. It’s your experience, and you own your reaction to your experience. No one can tell you your experience and your reaction to it is invalid (even though we tend to do this a lot to ourselves).

The self battle can bring immense despair, but acceptance of feelings can help start to bring things into balance.

Rather than compare to others who seem to “get over it” (which, for these “others” is often ignorance to the deeper layers of emotion), I would try meeting your feelings with acceptance. There are reasons you feel the way you feel, and it’s okay. From acceptance we build strength and security in how we feel.

Please stay safe. At the bottom of the valley the only way anywhere is up.