Ok, first of all it's ok to mourn the Parenthood you thought you'd have. 2nd... This child needs you. This happened. #3 your child is most likely scared or confused or uncomfortable or all those things. The world is different to these kids. Pay attention to the details it will give you answers to sooth them. #4 stay calm. We are all humans and we vibe, they feel you. Do you want to feel like a nusance to someone or like you are not wanted. These are kids #5 love harder. The only way it gets easier is to drop everything and make them comfortable. It's ok to the mourn the loss of the life you thought you'd have. #6. This will no doubt be the most amazing experience you will ever have int your life. You will love like you've never loved, learn like you've never learned and feel things that you would never have felt. Kids like ours are a blessing. You were learn to appreciate and express love in ways that are invaluable. You are blessed. Our kids are blessed. Best of luck