Confrontation isn’t the same as the person being stalked saying “do not bother me again/leave me alone” (once). What the fiancé did was confrontation whether aggressive or not. It especially should not have been the fiancé.

I read a lot about stalkers to keep myself safe. I unfortunately didn’t know that my confrontation was absolutely something I shouldn’t have done. Although mine was more from anger than her fiancé’s, it is a direct challenge to them. It can trigger vengeful stalking. If I’ve learned anything from all that I read it’s that you don’t confront a stalker, and it’s worse being a partner of that victim.

While I’ve kept my husband mostly in the dark about it only telling him a little, the one thing I made sure to tell him was don’t get angry, don’t say anything, don’t even look at him if you can help it (if he recognized someone as frequently showing up); he doesn’t know what he looks like so that helps me, because I know my husband wouldn’t be able to control himself.