I reframed my desire and intentions to restore as self empowerment, enjoyment, and future sexual enhancement for both of us.

I've never delved into the anger, sadness, and sense of betrayal that many of use have experienced regarding circumcision with my partner. That would make it too complex and emotional issue in our home and likely impart my emotional worries and anxiety onto him. He knows how anti circumcision I am and he agrees.

At the beginning, I did my research, determined to do this, and proceeded without seeking his opinion. It wasn't ever a secret, but I didn't make a point of it either. I taped for a few months to see how committed I really was to this process. I then bought a device and showed him exactly what I was doing. I told him it mattered to me on a deep level and that our sex life would likely benefit in time, he was fine. He simply asked that I not grow my foreskin "too long."

After restoring now for 6 years, He now loves-LOVES- the changes and the new things we discover sexually thanks to my ongoing restoration. And, he isn't concerned in the least that my foreskin might become too long.