I have a family who I need to spend my time and money on. I'm just not where this sangha is at.

I have already commented but I will elaborate more. My wife became ill many years ago. I will look after her as long as I can at home. I am old now and have my own health problems. It is a great challenge and leaves little time for a formal practice. I sacrifice my own practice gladly, to support my family.

This is from comments I made elsewhere that may be relevant to your situation

….A faith in the Buddha and the dharma has been established. Ones daily devotional practice, if we chose to have one, is focused on the selflessness of the path and devoted to how we can be of service to others. (.. and our family always comes first) The daily practice, and our study and contemplation, provides the metta we bring to our 'well prepared for' times of meditation. From time to time we seek seclusion to meditate, the rest of the time it is important to be engaged with the world.

When a monk first joins a temple they often spend a fair bit of time becoming 'engaged' with life in the temple before they begin any serious meditation. As we are not monks, our world becomes our temple. Monks travel the easier path, while we take the higher path.