I agree with you totally. My wife wants me ready to please her at all times -- using my penis! We've tried the chastity thing several times and I need to be edged and locked back up on a regular basis for it to work - this is very motivating. She knows that after 48 hours in the cage without edging, I begin to crash emotionally. By 3-4 days, I'm a mess and useless. I now associate obedient behavior with being unlocked and edging. Several times I've let her down and was not unlocked and spanked instead. I was devastated. The next day I tried really, really hard to be better. I usually get unlocked and edged almost every day or so (as long as I'm a good boy!). I have little ruined orgasms only (just a small amount of semen leaks out). I haven't had a full orgasm in a while - over a month- and its much better this way.