My fellow retards, I've been talking to a south african girl, now I have to ask myself the question when to bring up the bush war, I think Its going pretty well, I dont want to ruin my chances

Just stick to the get-to-know-ya topics first. afterwards you can evaluate where it's best to take the conversation. open up and be yourself. it sounds cheesy but that's the only way you'll date someone that not only you'll be excited about but someone that's just as excited to date you. as other people have pointed out, however, try not to make it clear that youre head over heels so soon and avoid topics like the bush war, politics, and religion unless it's clearly an interest to her. it can scare people away and for a good reason. not that its bad to feel a certain way or to be excited in the first place, just approach it with a level head and it'll work out if it's really meant to be. keep a mental note (or physical ig) of her interests and whatnot and do something nice for her. get her a gift, take her on a date to a museum and get lunch after, show her a project you've been working on that you think she would like. keep in mind to not spend too much because shell notice that and it makes people uncomfortable

ive been struggling for a very long time in dating and it's very frustrating seeing people i was convinced were equally as excited about me send me the long text saying how it was fun but it just isnt working out for them. i dont want to sound like an incel, but dating and extending a romantic connection is not easy. sure some people have it much easier, but we can only work with what we have. so what if it doesn't work out with her? you definitely have the potential to meet someone else. all you can do is work on yourself and hope that someone will notice and appreciate the person you've become. go to the gym, eat right, pick up a hobby, learn an interesting skill, do well in school/work.

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