After three months, I told him I had to leave to start school, could not delay my start date any longer, and would need him to pay my tuition so I could register for classes, and he told me point blank, "I was never going to pay, I was just using you". Another family member told me later that before I had arrived, he had told them he was just using me anyway and was never going to pay. They never told me. I did not speak to him for the next few years obviously and left the state again. After I had been laid off, I was never able to find a full-time, stable, and livable wage job and suffered financially. We began speaking 3 years later, when he began sending me money. I then found a full-time job, but the pay was low. A few months after that, I began experiencing very severe symptoms like waking up choking, trouble swallowing and breathing. I saw my brother who is a doctor and he said that I would need an immediate surgery to remove my tonsils because one was enlarged and he thought there could be lymphoma. He called my dad to tell him I needed surgery immediately. My dad offered via text message to pay for the surgery, take out health insurance, and let me stay with him for the recovery because i could not afford it alone and told me to come back to his state. I asked my boss for time off, and my boss said I could not unless I waited till summer (this was in January). I asked my dad who told me that my health was moor important than my job, and to quit my job if my boss made me choose. He reiterated he would help me with the surgery both financially and for the recovery and that I needed the surgery. I then quit my job, and he arranged a surgical date with a surgeon in his city, telling him I needed surgery, and this is documented. and two weeks later my dad reneged on his promise telling me he did not want me back in the state and that I always need his help and am always unemployed; completely ignoring the fact that I was employed and had only quit my job on his promise. He then promised my other family members that he would pay for the surgery in the state I was located in as well as my rent until then, but when I asked him about it, he said he never said that, I did not actually need surgery, and would only pay if I submitted all my medical records, paystubs for a year and bank records. When I refused, he tried to get into my bank through a manager he knows. He somehow got a hold of my mail and found my paystubs, and demanded to know where the 8,000 I had made in a year went. Yes, he was fighting me over 8,000 a year, when he had himself promised the surgery, told me i needed it, told me to quit my job, makes over 300,000 a year, and pays hundreds of thousands for his girlfriends and her kids. I was left without a job, without housing (because my lease was over when I was going to leave to go back to his state for the surgery), and i did not know if I had cancer; AND my father was demanding access to all my private records to pay for my basics when he had caused me to lose them all. I had 10 days to find a new place to live without enough money for a deposit and lying that I ws self employed so someone would let me in. I developed palpitations, sleeping problems, anxiety, and severe severe depression from this period and its all documented from doctors. I was suicidal and I cannot even begin to describe how traumatic this period was for me because words aren't adequate. On the day I was to move out, he finally gave me the money for rent after fighting me and demanding moor and more access to my records for the past 2 weeks. A month later via text he again promised to pay for the surgery if I got it done where i lived. I then got a surgical date for three months later, and I spent the next three months trying to get in touch with him to pay my rent and surgery. He refused to answer and said he did not owe me anything and that I always need his help because I am too lazy to work. i repeatedly tried to get in touch with him and the rest of my family, but they shunned me and took his side because they need his money. To this day, they lie to everyone that they offered to come up to me to help me with the surgery and I refused, despite the fact that they never responded to my phone calls or texts and i have proof of all that. I can't even begin to tell you the emotional distress the entire thing caused me. He refused to get in touch with me to arrange payment, so I had to cancel two surgical dates because I could not afford it on my own. I hired a lawyer to send him a demand letter and he wrote back saying with COMPLETE libel saying i had lied and made false allegations against him (in saying he forged my signature on the check), that I was diagnosed with two mental illnesses as a child (even though I never have and have documentation that I do not have), that I had a psychiatric hold in place if i ever enter his state and will be arrested on sight, and a bunch of other crazy slander, and that he would never settle and would just bury me in motions which he knew i could not afford. It was so outrageous and ridiculous because I have blatant documentation that it is all false. By this point, I had gotten a job to pay my rent, and despite a great relationship with my employer, had to quit because by this point, I was so severely traumatized and depressed by what he had done that i could not get out of bed anymore. There were months when I could not get out of bed and if it was not for my landlord making sure i was alive and offering me food, I probably would have killed myself. Thank goodness i was able to get on unemployment to be able to pay rent. I found out a year later, that my family had filed a false police report that I was missing, and in it they claimed I had schizophrenia and did not take my medication despite the fact that I do not have schizophrenia (with medical documentation), and have never been diagnosed with schizophrenia. This is a public report that anyone can see and it frightens me that it can be used against me. It is also seen as fact because my parents are doctors. However, they have never done any assessments on me, do not have the legal or ethical right to treat or diagnose their own children. My father also claimed during a deposition during his divorce that I am "mentally challenged" and "incurably mentally ill", and would need lifetime financial help which is why he was requesting a reduced amount of alimony he had to pay. This is why I want to sue for slander. My father has also prescribed narcotics/controlled substances for my other siblings and my mother has shown me her patients charts and forwarded me their emails.