Oops - they call that a Freudian slip ...

my SO does lie or cheat

Your true wish comes out in your thoughtless typing. As for your reply regarding your obvious envy of me, how male-centric of you to think it had anything to do with my husband. I wasn't saying you envy my husband, though you bring up a good point - the evidence for that is mounting. Listen, you silly little boy, what I was telling you is that you envy me. You envy my sexual power. I take what I want and keep my man happy. You wish you (or more likely, your SO) would be strong enough to do the same. You hate the fact that my husband and I live in marital bliss despite my fucking other guys who qualify only if they have a really big dick. You hate the fact that my husband found a clever solution, and so is not threatened by the same fears you have that your SO or future wife will cheat with bigger guys. But that's what turns you on, too - the idea of cheating. Too, you probably hate the fact that I'm wealthy enough to have a prenup. You probably even hate that I give fortunes to good causes and expend massive efforts in charity work. What can I say? I believe in helping those less fortunate than I. I even believe that about you: Though you're a lost cause, I'll try again to give you the advice you need to hear: You're mistaken to think you can make yourself happy by dragging others through the mud - it just splatters on you. Of course I give a shit if I hurt my husband - it's why I do what he asked me to do, and why I take such great pains to protect him. I very much doubt my husband would envy you anything - he tells me every day I'm the only woman for him, and he means it.