Hi Always, I appreciate the time you took to post and am sincerely glad that things are getting better with your daughter. However (and maybe it is due to my stage of recovery), this is a theme I hear a lot of out there and please don't take offense but I am not finding this helpful. A quick on line search shows that young and middle aged people in the US cutting off their parents is tragically common and becoming more so, and most of these estrangements are not for what I consider valid reasons, such as abuse.

My own parents engaged in serial adultery and Dad in drug abuse, and I determined these things would not be part of my children's environment, but I did maintain relationships with my parents. I married a good man and prioritized the kids over career, spent lots of quality time with them. I raised them with standards and accountability and I am just not going to apologize for that. For the actual mistakes, and there were some, I have definitely and repeatedly apologized. At this point, I think my daughter is simply tapping into a trend or movement where people encourage each other to estrange themselves from their parents and congratulate each other for it, often with the help of what I consider self-serving therapists. As painful as this is for me, I feel my daughter is deeply harming herself and setting herself up for the same thing to occur with her own children.

I've had therapy, and am now 7 months into my OA/CR recovery. I have a strong program, a wise sponsor and a loving God. I believe in making amends, and I feel that it needs to be done with wisdom and clarity as suggested by the OP.