Man it really sounds like you shouldn't be working. Can you try a remote job or some sort of assistance?

My partner has some of these same traits like with the bills and laundry for example. Luckily somehow we found each other and have been able to support each other into sort of stability. It was really hard and I don't know if I could do it again. We've been struggling since the lockdowns because it's really hard to get back into "regular" functioning. I love her and would never leave her and don't view her as a burden and I hope your husband doesn't with you either. It sounds like he is a good guy and you shouldn't worry. If you worry about it you should try to talk about it with him if you can.

I would suggest trying to come up with an overview of your household budget, or have someone help you with that if it's not a skill you have. There are some free websites that make it easier but I usually do it in a spreadsheet or notepad. See if you can find a way to cut back on costs and take a break from your job to hopefully focus that time on finding another job that you can tolerate.

Another option is to work with a medical provider (doctor, therapist, etc.) to get accommodations at your current job. Try to identify the things that stress you out and make you have to release when you come home. You might be able to find something to request from your employer at https://askjan.org/ and some things that might not be obvious at first can help a lot. That being said, I haven't really found any other than taking time off.

Look into financial support from any social services in your area if you are able to. A lot of times a doctor or therapist/social worker can help with this too I think.