I've never watched her or heard her having sex with another guy. I have seen her being pursued by other men, to the point of being touched and partially undressed by them. She has shut that down on her own when it was unwanted or at least unexpected, and any other men she has been with have been out of sight from me. I am not sure if I want that to change or not.

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We were not exclusive right away. She saw and fucked other guys for a time, and then also a couple of years later during a breakup. She also has had times during our marriage when she has seen other men and sometimes other women. She has been asked by her friends (in two cases) to have threesomes when a given friend's husband has wanted that.

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Some of my stories I can post here, if people want, regard her time as an informal employee of her father's university. Starting a couple of years before I met her she held a role in her father's academic department that brought her into contact with various men from other universities including from overseas, which in some cases turned sexual without her father knowing what was going on.

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Also, early on in our dating, her parents and especially her mother wanted her to see more impressive men than me and encouraged her to go out on arranged dates with certain men when they were in town. Her family has high expectations. When we were still fairly new to seeing each other, this meant that she would occasionally ask me if she could go for a night out with someone her parents saw as important. This meant me sitting in the dorm waiting for her to come home and wondering how far things would go while she was out. I wouldn't do that today but I was really in over my head back then.