You are not alone. I have been married since I was 23. Major dead bedroom issues from about the age of 30-40. I cheated a lot from age 36-43 when i just couldn't take it anymore. My husband just wasn't up for it for many issues that have since come out in therapy. As I've gotten older, I've just come to see orgasms and sex as precious commodities to obtain as often as possible. I masturbate every day, I like to blow my husband for no reason, and I make him have sex with me often. I got my tubes tied after my third kid and that just opened me up to a new world. As the baby maker has begun shutting down (I'm 46), I've been outrageously horny for the past year. I straight up told my husband a few years back that if he didn't step up to the plate, I would be going elsewhere to get what I needed. It's a curse, but it's also SO INCREDIBLE to have a body that does this. I love-hate it.