People are fake without really meaning to be. I think everyone tends to be a bit narcissistic when evaluating our opinions of ourselves. What I mean is, we all tend to think we matter more the other people/strangers then we actually do.

One of the most liberating and positive things people can do for is learning to define our worth without the need for input from others.

We all have something fucked up with us, your's just tends to be more noticeable. It's the same as when somebody posts they have been sober for so long, or that they walked out of an abusive relationship. Overcoming a challenging situation is typically admirable, and for that reason it compels people to chip in their two cents. IE, gee you're so inspirational and brave, how ever do you do it. (Same with people on social media posting their heartache regarding Orlando. It doesn't matter how petty it seems, it's just how a lot of people show others they were affected emotionally)

Unlike addicts, or victims of emotional abuse, people can visibly see something isn't quite right with you :⁾ That's why it seems to be the only thing people notice and comment on.

But bruh, and this is the whole reason I am writing this,

It's been two decades since my birth so why does the messed up way I came into the world continue to define who I am?

Because you are letting it define you.

It's hard for people not to judge themselves by how they think other people view them. I have never had people superficially labeling me, so I can't speak to any difficulties on dealing with that, but I can tell you this. People have an instinct for enduring whatever bullshit life throws at them. Birth, life, death, and some taxes thrown into the mix for good measure. It is relatively speaking the same for everyone who has lived on earth. (Being born in a first world country helps a lot too)

All the misfortune in the world can't keep the most dedicated people from achieving their goals. You know better than anyone that being dealt a shit hand doesn't have anything to do with who you really are. Practice defining yourself by the direction in which you are taking your life.

So much easier said then done. But it has really helped me find happiness in places I'd never expect to go. Apologies for the rant, but usually if I spewing hatred online it's for stupid shit like people liking their steaks cooked well done.

Cheers cripple