Those are some good points!

My mother is definitely overweight, although I don't know the actual numbers (she'd never tell me). She's had some disordered eating patterns since she was a young girl, and was extremely thin in college only to gain a lot of weight after having kids (looking to lose it for over a decade now).

My siblings and I are all pretty healthy weights, but I think due to my mother (being a Narcissist most likely + ED struggles) we've all had our fair share of self esteem and body image issues.

Working out, consciously trying to eat healthily or change the way we looked has always been a touchy subject, and if done so, would most likely be HIGHLY publicised within the family, almost shaming you into submission (or neglecting any aims for healthier habits, as any change = bad, or enough to trigger my mother's insecurity).

I don't exercise at all (working on it though), live a sedentary lifestyle (like my family), and have been intermittent fasting 16hrs (i.e. skipping breakfast) for about a year now, on and off.

I think the combined anxiety of being highly humiliated about any change + the change in skipping a meal has become the rope to reel me back in; anything I do is linked to 'do you have anorexia'. Although they'll simultaneously make jokes about how I'm 'not being anorexic enough', or make remarks about both how incredibly small (sometimes) or big (other times) my portions are (which are mostly regular portions all the time). I've always been a bit chubby too, so that might have something to do with it - I'm no belle, obviously, but sometimes they compliment me in an almost 'how are you more attractive now?? i thought you were ugly' kind of way, thus almost appreciating the changes I've made, but then also make out like I'm bony and emaciated (both actually used to describe me, lol). Sometimes it feels like they (and I'm hesitant to say it) kind of prefer it if I'm uglier, as maybe they feel better? Or it reminds them about things they should be doing for their health that they don't do?

Hopefully that answers some of your questions!