I dont speak for intersex people and dont really care if anyone thinks Im intersex or not or trans or not because there is no point. Some people will oppose you no matter how you frame your views on things. If I had to take a guess at where the conflict arises between the two communities (intersex and trans) I would say it has to do with some trans struggling to just own their shit and accept they are trans and it isnt some 1 in a million intersex condition that forces them to want to be women/men.. but then some trans have a sense that there is more to their situation than lets call it a whim or desire. And who is to say they are the expert and can tell right from wrong? With intersex people who are outright no doubt about it intersex, there are lets call it hardships and difficulties and injustices faced often from birth, that are significant and not often understood by trans people who by stating a belief they are intersex to some degree, can seem to be detracting from the more significant life trauma that more obviously/definitely intersex people experience. My opinion in answer to your question - just be sensitive to the life struggles of other people, don't presume to understand them or think that your own experiences give you an insight to other peoples that might on the surface seem similar. But in reality, well none of us can know what it is to walk in another persons shoes.