Why did my avoidant stop showing me empathy? In the beginning when we were just friends he was extremely empathetic, which is actually one of the traits that drew me to him. He was very patient with me and caring. Well now almost a year in he really just wants to just suck it up and keep things fo myself. The problem is I’m pregnant with his baby and I’m having an extremely difficult pregnancy. He’s helping me when I ask for help, but he’s lacking empathy, and even sympathy. I understands being all self sufficient and all, but I’m carrying his baby. It would be nice for him to say something like, “it really sucks you’re having a hard time. Is there anything I can do to help?” Instead of “if I was pregnant I would just deal with it.” Most of the time I tell him how I’m feeling I don’t even get a response of any kind. Im formally an FA leaning either anxious or avoidant, so it’s hard for me, now that I have so many hormones, so continue to try to talk to him to be met with this. I literally just want to put my walls back up and go numb, but I’m doing everything I can to stay present, because I know that’s unhealthy. I know the secure thing would be to walk away since my needs aren’t being met, but obviously I don’t want to leave before our baby is even born. I do talk to my friends a lot, but they’re not the ones having this baby with me. I’m not looking at him to be my emotional support, but just to at least show an ounce of empathy or even an acknowledgment that he hears me. This pregnancy was planned and he told me he would be in it with me 100 percent. Even when we were just friends he’s always told me he wanted a baby. Is there anything even left to do to salvage this besides leaving?