Respecting him doesn’t mean putting out and throwing your boundaries out the window. Communicate to him that are not interested in sex at his house at this time.

Its much better to get to know each other outside each others private spaces before putting one another into such an awkward position. Its true, may people do expect sex when a man and a woman go into each others private spaces especially alone. I learned this one the hard way.

When you’re ready for such things to move forward, when you’re comfortable with the person and ready to take things to the next level of being vulnerable, go to his place. And being vulnerable doesn’t have to mean sex, it could just mean you two are simply trusting enough of each other to share each others company in a more private space.

This is where communication is crucial. If you two don’t communicate honestly from the get go about boundaries and expectations, you’ll be putting each other in a really awkward position. If this guy is as into you sexually as you say he is, being together alone at his place, theres a lot of temptation. He might be especially horny and you will likely feel awkward as a consequence. You’ll feel guilty for not accommodating especially if you do like him in some way. Not that you should feel guilty, but a conversation before hand will make you much less likely to feel this way and will keep you from feeling pressured (by him or yourself even because you’re afraid to loose him) into doing something you are not comfortable with.

I’m not saying you two don’t have will power and can’t just power through it but without a conversation before hand, you won’t be able to gauge this as a possibility.

Do not have sex if your not comfortable or ready, do not force yourself. I get being nervous, but thats different than being not ready. If he’s a good man and he’s thinks your worth it, he should respect those boundaries until your ready without any pressure or he should walk away if thats not what he’s looking for.

As long as you’re both honest and open with your intentions, you both give each other a fair chance to accept, reject or rethink and compromise on the relationship’s intentions without any mess.