We're both just describing personal experiences. I've found throughout my life that women tend to be more cruel emotionally, that they're more likely to lash out in a vicious way when unhappy about something, just out of spite.

You say you've found that not to be true, which means you think men and women are equally cruel (impossible, since we're different) or that men are more cruel, which is possible just not something I've personally observed.

There are many possibilities for the discrepency in our experiences. Maybe we've been exposed to similar experiences but one of us misperceived what was happening. Maybe we've been exposed to different experiences and we're both correct in the patterns on which we've picked up, it's just that I happen to have run into more cruel women than you did.

Either way...personal experience is what determines the way we see the world. I don't go into relationships thinking a girl will be cruel, I always give individuals a blank slate of assumptions until given a reason not to. It's just been my experience that women are more cruel than men, that's it