As for the gparents rights, my sister had a document made official where my mom couldn't sue for granp rights. The bad part is my mom's not crazy or bad. She got that document with no proof of my mom being unfit. So maybe you guys can get one typed up to??

As for autism being the product of bad parenting, absolute malarkey. I am autistic and as a child I was tame, quiet as ever, just read, never cried as a baby. Didn't know I was autistic until 23. There was no "teaching" it out of me (because I didn't have "negative" symptoms) and I'm still autistic! No bad parenting involved or aba therapy.

Embrace your autism. It's genetic like the color of your eyes. They can try to teach you to not have green eyes but ur still gonna be a green eyed person! (Or brown or blue etc lol)

I'd just stay far away from ur nightmare birth givers and get urself legally prepared.