Yes, becuase we estranged because my white husband's family is super fucking racist.
In our case the racism is overt and public like calling me racial slurs, but the tolerance for racism is a lot higher cuz they are like "whats wrong w calling u the n word"? Or not inviting brown people isnt segregation, its a preference. Or "we cant be racist. Everyone knows minorities arent equal to whites, and pretending they are is the true racisim against whites".
I do really think the issues are around security and privildge, and there are some decent discussions in reddit communities on the connection between racist rhetoric and stochastic terroism.
Stochastic terrorism is the idea that party a wants to hurt party b, so party a spreads likes about b. Party a doesnt care who reacts, they just know that someone eventually will. And thats how loners get motivated to hurt people (like party b) without doing it directly.
My MIL is queen of this. She spreds open racist rehetoric. Comments about how a racial slur picked xyz for the wedding and needs to be put in her place becuase she's a gold digger who is just stealing money from her and her son and they so gerously havent called ICE on me, are designed to whip others into doing her dirty work. In this case it was extended relatives who didnt mind creating chaos becuase they felt like it was "deserved" and they were getting "even" on MIL's behalf. These releatives didnt check cuz they were whipped into a racist frenzy. For example, a quick google would have reveild i worked full time while my SO worked min wage part time, and i was born here. But they are racist, so its just assumed im the spawn of satan, cuz im the spawn of a person of color.
You dont have to like meghan. But you do have to know that race places a huge issue, and that cant be ignored and its not the same as making fun of kate for being "waity kaitie". People are threatening archie and his family isnt giving them security cuz they are ignoring the race issue, and harry isnt allowed to pay for it himself privately. Thats fucked up, and you cant expect people tolerate a "we dont care enough about your kid" with close family.
Like, if they werent royalty, and some one posted here "im upset cuz neo nazis are threatening my baby and my parents dont care" and someone posted "your wife is fake and we dont like her" is that appropriate? Would that person get banned?