So I never had any problem dating and I'm not sure why. I have a theory that it is because at the core of my being is someone with a strong sense of self. This doesn't mean being the best or having the most, it means to me being extremely comfortable with the honest truth and reality. The honest truth is I am not that great. Oh, a low self esteem? Not at all. But I'm no billionaire, not going to be, not going to be famous or win awards or probably even contribute much to mankind at all other than existing and living a human life. I am pretty damn cool with that actually and because of that I always felt connected to something more "real" - humanity itself. Just being here is cool!

So when going on dates with people who are "educated, good career, good job, good place to live, good insurance, etc." suddenly it was like being with people who are reciting checklists so there was no date at all. It was the status quo and people who's sense of self were centered on details and constructs and not on who they are beyond the labels. It felt very hollow with some of those types of people which killed all chemistry immediately.

That seems very wishy-washy to many people but of the dates I went on before my long term relationship the conversations were never about jobs, education, and success, they were about passion, interest, fun things, what our experiences had taught us - not how fancy of a car it got us. People connecting to people. Not contracts connecting to contracts.

The person you are dating is the person that if it becomes long term enough you come home to. How many of you want to come home to your coworkers? Job interviews leads to coworkers. Dating the person leads to someone you come home to.