“Hey we met the other day, I’m blahblah’s friend. Sorry to bother you but I have an important question to ask.

How many pigeons do you think you could carry at once?”

She might laugh. She might ask interesting follow up questions like “How large are the pigeons?” “Why are they not flying away?” “Why the fuck are you asking me this?”

For me this is perfectly representative of my stupid, weird sense of humor. Maybe you could think of a question that would make you laugh if someone asked you it.

I like to think that if someone can’t be silly and have fun answering stupid questions with me then maybe we’re not a good match.

Don’t be afraid to show some personality and be weird if you are.

My girlfriend is weird af but if she wasn’t I wouldn’t be dating her. She makes me laugh everyday and I’m so lucky to have found her. Tbh I don’t even remember our first message but whatever I said got her to keep messaging me so this is my best advice.

I like to think this is what people mean when they say be yourself.

I’m not going to lie though, there were many years leading up to my current relationship that were riddled with no text backs, getting ghosted and bewildered expressions.

But I’d go through it all again because there’s no greater feeling that knowing you are with someone you are compatible with.

Eventually you could lead up to “Nah I don’t believe you can carry 7 pigeons at once, I guess we’re just going to have to meet up for a picnic at the park tomorrow so you can prove it. I’ll bring my pigeon pheromone spray.”