Instead of “what to do ‘right’”, tell us “what you were doing wrong”...
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Instead of “what to do ‘right’”, tell us “what you were doing wrong”!
Great question.
My list:
Going too deep. The most intense pleasure I get is when the tip of the njoy wand, dildo, or Cesar vibrator is just at the “doorway”. Sure going deeper is a lot of fun, but the prostate is only an inch inside your anus.
Not using edibles
Wanting/trying to go to the next level. Give up chasing “it”. Enjoy whatever you are experiencing regardless of it not meeting your expectations of what a super o should be.
Not “dialing in” to the pleasure that I’m actually feeling especially the really subtle things
The big O has different speeds and different intensities. You can be having a incredible (low intensity) orgasm but because you think it’s going to be like a penile orgasm you’ve missed that you are in fact in midst of one.
Not only is it okay to have a penile orgasm during play, but for me, it is an integral part of getting to the full body O. After I orgasm, I continue on with my play, and my entire body starts to vibrate. I can stay in that low-vibration state for thirty minutes to an hour or more. Only recently did I realize that that was what others were describing as the big o.