Hi, I (19F) am asexual towards guys. I don't feel sexual attraction to them, I never have and I doubt that I ever will, but I have never been in a serious relationship with a guy to 100% know. When it comes to dating and crushes, I feel the same as you. A few years ago, I was on a cruise with my family and me and a guy liked each other. But, when he tried to kiss me I froze and I couldn't kiss him. Yet, I definitely knew that I liked him. I didn't know him much at all so kissing him was something that I didn't feel comfortable with. I was so confused, I thought that I'd want to kiss him. I can't imagine just meeting up with someone on a date and kissing them that day, but that is because I've only kissed two people. The more people you kiss, the easier it gets I bet. I think that the kissing and sex are not linked when it comes to asexuality, the kissing issue may just be the fact that you need time to develop a stronger connection like most people.

I have never done anything sexual, but this is something that I am sure I know. I have never found a guy sexy in my life either. The majority of straight people know they are straight without experimenting with the same sex for example, so you don't have to try something if you know it's not for you.

If you go on another date and think that you want to get to know them more I'd try that, see how you feel after a few dates or meeting up with a certain person. This can happen in the future, soon whatever I just mean one day. Once you feel like you romantically like them, you will probably know if you feel sexually attracted to them then. A non-asexual would probably find someone they are in a relationship with/romantically like sexually attractive, even if they're not ready for sex.

Once that time comes where you feel romantically attracted to someone and you feel like you may want to be in a relationship, think about your feelings. Anyway, I think that the kissing stuff is normal if you know that you need to get to know people more to kiss them, some people are like that. But, in terms of the sex the feeling may come during a new relationship, a serious relationship or it may never come. Either way, I hope you figure it out and one day you will know how you feel. BUT, if you don't want to have sex, don't.