He strikes me as the kind of guy who is a typical young white American male and finding himself in a position where he doesn't feel like he has any sense of self-concept or belonging to a group. The past few decades have had a lot of changes with womens issues being brought to to the forefront, the larger presence of hispanic influence, the push for recognition of black issues, all this growth and chance and movement and they're all coming at the white male establishment.

And that comes at a cost. Because the "Patriarchy" is a very specific set of rich powerful white men. Not for all men in general. The identity of white males growing up is an a bit of a weird situation. There aren't enough positive socially progressive role models for them, they're finding that the image of masculinity they grew up with is now not only not the norm, but criticized. The perceived perception of "everyone else" getting more power and influence except them even though this isn't really the case.

These kind of guys grow up really insecure, and volatile and desperate to find some sort of community, identification, and purpose because they're not getting it from the society they thought they were a part of. So when you find places like that that give guys a sense of pride and something to identify with it makes it really easy to suck them into the machine. This also is how organizations like ISIS are able to recruit people to the cause. When the western world you grew up with treats you like shit and you have no positive counterbalance to even you out, it makes a lot of sense to join these groups and say fuck the system and go bomb something.

I feel you're justified to be really concerned, but it's a complex social situation that there aren't clear answers for. The idea of what a man is is now no longer so definite, and that's not a bad thing. Each man can now say fuck the status quo, define his own destiny, his own path, and his own values on his own terms. That's pretty damn manly, and just so happens to be the same message feminism has been trying to relay to girls since the women's lib movement.