Yes! I moved a ton as a child, had zero family/close friends nearby outside my parents/siblings. It caused a lot of anxiety with up and leaving and starting over.

We are finally settled and have roots in our community, and our work doesn't vary much. It is what it is no matter where you are. So to uproot everyone to Montana because "it would be fun" stresses me to no end, we've even gone to counseling over that. He says it to the kids too and they freak out, say they don't want to leave their home/cousins/friends/grandparents.

But I agree, unless it is a income issue, or a choice of having a job or not... the family should have a say. Which is why I'm really feeling hurt, I feel like I don't. When we talk about this, he agrees with me for a few weeks then goes back to the same stuff.